Male vs Female

First of all I want to tell you that my writing this time reached six-page MS Word. Long enough and maybe a little heavy. Therefore, make sure you read without interruption, or save it to your reading at home tonight while accompanied by a cigarette (if you smoke) and a glass of warm milk before bed.
This article contains uneg-uneg who had clot in my head since about six months ago. Most likely what I will discuss this would provoke a negative reaction from women readers, or perhaps also men, because there are very few people dare to speak bluntly and what it is about this. I will reveal to you a big secret that women do not want men to know.
What I am talking about would be contrary to the belief that has been around for this, but in fact I challenge you to open your mind, take a moment to read until the end, and think critically about the truth contained in it. One fact that will open your eyes and change your outlook towards women.
I want to talk about a social phenomenon that occurs in modern societies throughout the world (remember the key word: modern.) A phenomenon that ultimately distinguishes our world today with the world's grandfather and your father first. This phenomenon is called: feminism.
Perhaps you've been thinking that feminism is just a foreign term that you only read about in newspapers and TV news, an intellectual discourse that has nothing to do with real life. But in fact, feminism has become part of our daily lives. Feminism is on your campus, at your workplace, in places of worship, on Facebook, in your social environment, it's everywhere!
You live in a world of feminist, man. And this is obviously very related to the dynamics of life romance that you experienced so far. One of the main reasons for the cause of your frustrations when dealing with women.
The term 'feminism' new popularity in the 1970s. This refers to the movement of women in the western parts of the world who want equal rights in political, social, cultural and economic among women with men. Women are no longer satisfied with just being good wives and housewives who take care of children and cooking. They no longer want to be faithful to the obedient companion. They want to get all that man can get. The reason is simple: because human beings have the same degree regardless of sex, and especially, because so far he has been abusive misuse of power and rights owned.
Women feel victimized, and they protest loudly. And protest they have not only been heard, but also have changed the world.
When Margaret Thatcher became Prime Minister of England in 1979, this movement reached its peak. Eventually, the entire world must recognize that women can stand on the top and become the ruler, including the ruler of men. The women around the world cheered in triumph, and it has changed the position of women in society.
Please remember that at that time, women are still regarded as second-class citizens. So clearly this event is a change in social order is very drastic, and certainly very positive. This shows that a person is no longer recognized because of their gender, but because of their competence.
But the thing is, all of equal rights has been far too far and instead encourage women to change into creatures that materialistic, competitive, and Cosmopolitan: Fun, Fearless Female; completely different from the mother figure that we admire and love.
Dr. Alice von Hildebrand, a professor and author of "The Privilege of Being Women" say: Feminism is a metaphysical revolt against the characteristics of women. Men seem to have all the advantages, and so feminists try changed from a caricature of men.
Let me elaborate further.
Women and men are two different entities, both physically and pisikis, then logically the terms of equal rights is absurd. And women themselves were well aware of this, therefore only demand equal rights feminism, but not equality obligations. In other words, women want all the benefits and rights owned by men but do not want to undergo male-owned liability. More simpelnya again: women want is just delicious.
Women are not satisfied with equal rights. They constantly, little by little, slowly but surely, changing social values ​​that have kept us from the days of our ancestors thousands of years ago. They want to establish a world in which women valued, preferred and more privileged than men. What is clear is contrary to the principles of the early feminist movement itself: the equality of rights between men and women.
And they have succeeded. Very successful, in fact.
In his book "The manipulated Man", Esther Vilar, the author who is also a woman, pry out about how abused women are given preferential treatment by men. And to this day he still receives threatening letters from women hardline feminist.
Whether you realize it or not, we now live in a world dominated by women. A world that puts women is much higher than men. A world that favoritism in women. A world of unequal and biased. A world that makes you, the men, no longer a real man, but a man who is bound by rules and norms set by the women. A world that makes you grow into a man lossy.
Some simple examples:

    * Men must work and earn. Women may work, may not.
    * In the workplace, women are entitled to a permit once every month on the grounds 'coming months'. Women have the right to expression with fashion, hair coloring and different pieces. While men have a short cut neat, should not be in color and are obliged to wear a shirt, tie and pants material.
    * Men are still expected to be able to do 'work' of men, such as changing tires, driving a vehicle, computer repair, etc.. Women are no longer required to be able to do 'work' of women, such as cooking, washing, grooming, etc..
    * Men ask the women to wash clothes, she would consider it demeaning. Please ask the man to lift heavy things, he will do it gladly.
    * Men must pay for her meal, while women do not have to cook for men.
    * Men must pay for the family. Women may be yes, may not.
    * Women are always given priority and be treated special: special parking lady, ladies nite in the nite club, if there is precedence unfortunate women and children to let him die first.
    * Men are vulgar seductive woman called harassment and may be reported to the authorities. Women seduce men vulgarly called aggressive and only if there will not be reported to the trust.
    * It's okay if a woman touches a man, but when a man touches a woman called rude.
And thanks to the media which always show a beautiful woman and sexy, the men so adore beauty than a woman's personality. As a result, women can do anything that bad and was not pleased but the men still gather and memperebutkannya.
I once went dinner with a woman who had known. When he picked up at his house, what he did made me instantly ilfeel. Once inside the car, he immediately raised his legs and sat la warteg. As I said, "Uh .. I naikkin my feet yah emang this person, what it is." And I never contact her again since then.
Another incident, I never went to watch with a woman. When I invited him to dinner with friends of mine, she is not interacting with my friends and socialize like a normal human being, but rather busy himself with the Blackberry and Facebook. It made the atmosphere really uncomfortable. And obviously, I feel ashamed, because I invited him.
And as my experience with so many women, I found that very few women who still behave as a woman. Women today have lost her femininity.
I would not be interested in women who are not women. Just as women are not going tetarik in men who are not men: whiny, unstable and do not have principles.
Margaret Thatcher was nicknamed 'Iron Woman handed', if you can imagine when you become a child? Or her husband? Is it true that the woman coveted by every man? If you notice, almost all successful career women who stood at the top, usually lonely and always remain single until old age, or always fail in a relationship, marriage, divorce, etc..
And many more practical examples which I'm sure you always see everyday around you. Women DEMANDS man to behave as a gentleman, respect and treat women with respect, but they are not willing to behave like a lady and respect the man. Worse, they feel no need to change, because, after all, by any act arbitrarily, all men have succumbed, and in line with ngarep in front of them.
Feminism is excessive.
One of the reasons why such women still exist and increasingly acting, is that men still want them even if they are not women who deserve to be paired.
It's up to you judge me sexist or stereotyping. Clearly it is a fact. From Stone Age to the present postmodern age, the fact it remains in force. Please note that I do not talk about dignity: as a man, woman and man are all equal.
Do not misunderstand. I strongly agree with equal rights of women to obtain the highest possible education, choosing a career / profession that they want, have the political right, have the right to legal protection, etc..
I spoke about the role and mentality. In terms of relationship romance, women and men have different roles and positions. And it is not known by many and a source of problems their romance.
With the mindset of 'be yourself' is always heralded everywhere through the media, we begin to stray from our role should be. Women began to be masculine with the slogan: Fearless female fun and girl power, and men began to become feminine by being too sensitive emotionally and metrosexual. And this is causing a lot of people complaining can not find the right partner. They have chosen the wrong role from scratch!
Today, women are able to beat men in all things considered a great and admired, and men who are not afraid to cry and show weakness is considered a true man.
But to be honest, no man who likes women who rough, dominant, carpenters ngatur, too girl power and cool. Just as there is no woman who likes men who are too sensitive, a little mellow, and brought a sense of panic.
Peggy Giordano, a professor of sociology in the United States, in September 2006 issue of TIME magazine, revealed the results of his research for several years: the men are now more sensitive generation of love and romance than women. They have no intention of playing around or take advantage of women in relation to romance, because that men were more serious in a relationship. The notion that men only want sex and have fun already broken through this research. This is the new age of romance, WHERE the boys Want to get married and the girls just Want to have fun!
If you ask older people or your grandparents, you'll hear tales of romance that is so simple and beautiful. They met, fell in love, get married and live happily to this day. 30-50 years ago there has been no social deviation that we see today. People in those days to follow their role should be.
In those days, men and women were the resource persons were the resource to women. That's why it's Relatively easy to find the mate of your life. It's so natural.
So what lessons can you take from all the chatter at length this? And how this knowledge can improve the lives of your romance?
Quite simply: YOU MUST HAVE STANDARDS.
Women just have standards. They knew exactly what kind of man they want. Men are masculine, mature, well-established, capable of being assertive, not emotional, have integrity, can lead a relationship and to guide and protect them. In other words, women just want a real man.
Therefore, you must have standards.
Women like what you want? Women are beautiful and sexy but do not know how to behave like a woman? Or women who know how to appreciate and respect you as a man, who knows how to carry themselves and behave in front of your friends or your family. Women who have a loving motherly quality, gentle, soft spoken, which makes you believe that you can entrust your child later in her treatment? In other words, a real woman you can be proud.
If you want a real woman, so from now on do not make beauty or body shape of a woman as your priority. Be assertive. Say NO if you find women who are not women. He was not feasible for a real man like you. There are enough qualified men who fell scattered and destroyed just because a woman who really does not deserve to be pursued. Never was a man-man.
But of course, before you claim the right, you have to do your duty. It was not fair if you require a woman to be your own woman while not yet a man worthy to receive them. Because it is doing all sorts of ways to improve your quality as a man..

Men, Women, and Sea Dogs

In the breeding season arrives, the seals will gather in large numbers in an inland or a small island. The female will try to attract the attention of males, and a competition event was held on the island.
The Smackdown one stud each other to demonstrate skill, agility, and strength. For males who win fights, then the female allows the male to marry her.
From the story above sea dog we can take a conclusion: the females like males are superior to other males, because the female wants a superior offspring. In addition, the stud who won the competition to prove that he was able to maintain and protect the females and their children someday.
Not only seals that have rituals before the marriage. There are so many examples of rituals from other animals that have a ritual that is more unique and diverse to find a partner.
In principle, the romance of our lives as human beings is also not much different from seals and other animals. Because humans really are both located in the kingdom Animalia or abundant metazoan classification with the animals. But because we are undergoing a process of evolution of a more perfect and complex, culture and rituals of our romance was far more developed and more complicated.
In this article, I'll peel a romance dynamics are quite interesting and many are not aware of the men out there.
Are you ready? Let's go .....

Each is a problem, you immediately try to give reasons and provide solutions that make sense. But even if all you are very logical reasons, such as one plus one must have two, she seemed unable to understand. As a result many men who think that women are being over-sensitive, emotional, and rarely use logic well in looking at a problem. But that is the assumption that was not relevant because they also created a brain volume of the same with men.
Perhaps it is actually you are not guilty on the him, but actually you've made a mistake on YOURSELF.
Indeed women are intelligent beings. All problems and complaints made to you is a way in which women, consciously or unconsciously, that I refer to as 'periodic feasibility study'.
Women want and need a superior figure of a man who has a greater ability than other men out there. And one of the benefits that I discussed here is the ability of man who could maintain themselves, their partners and families of various issues, problems and dangers. This is a very important factor, because the man has the role as head of a family, a decision maker.
To ensure that women do not choose the wrong man, woman created by having a special mechanism that is used to test how feasible the man that the woman decided to have a relationship with him.
The problem of testing the woman told the man was not finished when they 'invented' or married, women will continue to conduct a feasibility study that is continuously, periodically, to determine whether your ability as a man is still feasible or not.
Many men think, women only course of action to follow his emotions, but in fact if any close friends who confide, they understand and are able to give logical advice to his friend. They also often provide suggestions in a positive and reasonable.
"I do not dipikirin first, wait for your emotions subside first. New'll slowly diomongin fine .. "
It also proves she really knows how to use their logic, but under certain conditions, they are deliberately disable the logic and enable the mechanism to test you. Because of this instinct has been around for thousands and even millions of years, the instinct is inherited by our ancestors (them) as a means of self defense and survival.
This mechanism would be disastrous for the men, if we do not understand and do not realize the function. From the small problems that are not important such mechanism is automatically activated, prompting the woman to perform a "feasibility study" on a regular basis to you, which appears in the form of noise and problems given the woman to the man.
By giving a lot of problems and complaints that makes your head hurt, the woman tried to test and assess your eligibility as a man who excel. If the problem is trivial given by the woman you just can not handle, then she will assume you will not be able to resolve the problem of larger problems in other matters that may be encountered in the future.
Maybe this is a way that is not smart and making Ngada according to your view as a man, but according to this woman is a smart way to ensure the survival of the woman, her family, and his descendants. Therefore, a woman MUST continue to give problems for the problem to you. They can not help it! It is a fact.
If later the woman was unable to consider you and fail to prove your competence as a man who could overcome the "feasibility studies" they provide, then the woman is consciously or unconsciously, will try and try to take over the function and your role as a man .
You can see these things happening around you. Relationships where the woman becomes the dominant party, which determines all things and hold the rope in the man's neck. A similar relationship like Paris Hilton with Tinkerbell, her beloved chihuahua dog. Because it has invested heavily in energy and emotions and spend time together, the women are fond of the man. But it is the same compassion you feel for your beloved dog or cat, or as an employer a sense of affection towards his men, who have long worked hard untukknya faithfully. That is NOT a sense of affection and admiration like a queen looked at the king.
Which often you experienced?
Since you are considered not feasible, the best possibility is that he will leave you and find another man who is more competent. And you will be free while until you find the 'employer' new. While the possibility that the worst is, you will always be under the control of the woman until the year 2012 (the rumor is the time of Resurrection).
Either way, eventually you can only lament the fate of your own at the end of your room is dark, gloomy and dark, while blaming the woman. And you have to sacrifice many things for the sake of the woman. You have to prove the sincerity of love, and give away all your self-esteem for him. But all the good you did not mean anything anymore, if you are already in the view of one eye by the woman, because it is not feasible in carrying out the role as a man.
You have three options that you can do to respond to a feasibility study done to you lady.
The first choice, you are thinking about and responding to the woman with a serious intent, and to counter attack by way of a frontal and provide logical arguments and sensible, so that eventually lead to commotion and bigger problems.
The second option, you listen carefully then relented and apologized even though you're not wrong.
The third option, you realize what is happening and you know how to turn off the alarm by way of an intelligent, precise and more mature so that the women see you graduate and proved to be the best partner!

Men And Romancc

Buddy, do you feel like a romantic guy? Or want to learn to be romantic?

Along with the rise of romantic movies and mellow songs are sung by nan ngarep musicians homeland, the more men who are inspired to learn to be a Romantic Man.

Even this trend expanding indiscriminately, narrow understanding of the men about to start a relationship with a woman. Give the illusion of them, that by being romantic it will create a shortcut to a success in life romance.

Special thanks to the Medias! Thanks to the media, which always mensimbolisasikan romance with roses, poetry and song, diamond rings, and beautiful words alone, the men became increasingly distant from the romance of a healthy life and quality.

Some men spend a lot of money to buy flowers and rings to women that they love ..

Some men rack their brains just to assemble a beautiful poem to women that they love ..

Some men waste their precious time waiting for years to prove the sincerity of the woman they love ..

And of course, some men were killed in a physically or mentally, when he learned all of that was a total failure ..

Coupled with other typical cases. Culture romanticism has been eating so many male victims.

So what's the error that makes the romance that made the modern man is a total failure? Even tend to end with shouts of, "bullshit you once!" From a woman. Whereas male characters in the movie, these tips magazine, and the lyrics of the song managed to get the women they want. Points missed what you thought?

You see, most men do not understand well and not give a damn about the true meaning of 'romantic' itself. And already the law if we do not understand the true meaning of something, we also do not know the mechanism and how to do it right.

And even if you master something without understanding the true (self-taught), the knowledge you also will still be easy to collapse, getting lost, even stuck! Because you are not based on solid foundations. You do not know what and why you are wrong ..

As a literature student, I studied romance academically. And I really want to straighten your views about the meaning of 'romance', as well as providing a solution in accordance with what I have learned.

I promise not to lecture you with the history and philosophy of romanticism, but I will give a simple general definition of romanticism is only fitting that you know.

Romance in itself is a way or someone tips to express feelings of interest and admiration (love) on the opposite sex is interested. The Europeans are the pioneers of medieval romance .. in antiquity, they show an interest with flowers, poems, sweet words, and even sacrifice their lives.

Until finally, how this has become a trend and culture in the world to express love sleuruh .. until now!

But modernization has changed the face of drastically romance, my friend. When the actions were so easy to get romantic with 'price' is no longer cheap and artsy, the ancient romanticism demanded to adapt to modern culture.

It creates a romantic divided into two opposing camps, namely: (1) modern romantic action that has been successfully adapted to the times, and still bears the name of 'Romantic'. And (2) the action of ancient romance, which still relies on the ways that tend to succeed in ancient times, and finally ends with a 'rag' or 'quasi-Romantic'.

Think about it carefully. Today, automatic ROMANTIC stamp attached to the disclosure of a sense of action like that are considered genuine, creative, and managed to 'charming' hearts target. Melt like hot chocolate and felt so lull. Instead, Cap rag will stick on a number of actions that fail to 'charming' hearts, is not considered sincere and sheer seduction. The action was seen Trying too hard "to get attention from its target.

Weird is not it? One thing is distinguished from the genuine and least.

In other words, as long as you and thousands of other men think that you will successfully get a woman if you do a romantic action with SINCERELY! Though obviously not have a sincerity meter course. Who the hell knows if you are sincere or not?

Psycho-cultural differentiation is very interesting and confusing at the same time. So people who do tend to get lost. This is a division of a very thin, invisible, but the results are very much different.

You liked a woman, you are dealing with it, and you feel like showing your liking to him. Do not know what to do to attract him, then you can only use methods that work in film or creative ideas of your best friend (who is actually also a single all).

You think that's how to do. No woman may not be touched. So you prove your sincere love through the gift stuffed Teddy Bear is cute in his neck dikalungi a ring that you gave at 12 am right on his birthday.

The woman just stared at you with surprised faces. Then smiled and menucapkan thank you. He received your gift, and immediately you say, "I love you .. Can not I be your boy? "

The woman then thinks hard, putting all his strength and feeling unpleasant to say, "Oh thanks bangeet! I do not have thought .. But sorry, yes, I can not .. I was more comfortable to be friends wrote, you were too good for me .. "

I can translate the above sentence to Indonesian to be, "Najong .. Animashaun! Rags very siih! But it's also nice dolls the same ring .. but how well? Gue ga interested at lu .. "

Or you are recording a collection of songs that symbolize your feelings on the woman in a CD, giving it the feeling of hope-hope-anxiety. Your genuine sincerity. In the CD cover you even knitting poetry:

He was the person who has made me fall-wake.
He was the one who makes my life sweet.
He was the idol of my heart, my dream for this.
He is the end mywaiting.
He is .. You ..

The above poem is a poem most sincere ever, but instead get a stamp rag and she became heavy Ilfeel.

And you're sincere! Why would you even fail?

If you often fail in the romantic action, I would not blame you. But I also will not let you getting trapped. This is just due to misunderstandings about the romance that always force you to continue to rely on old methods that have been worn.

You can still bounce back!

Well, how to be a real romantic guy that will not be branded as Sok Rags Men Romantic?

Friend, many men mistakenly thinking that a romantic name that is a matter of nice words to seduce a full compliment and give special gift. And that's not at all!

Romantic Men really rely on TIMING and ATTITUDE!

TIMING mean you have to know the right time to launch a romantic action. You can not beat playing for granted. When you do so at the wrong moment, then surely you will meet with failure.

When you were little and wanted to have bought the toy, then you wait for the right time to seduce your parents, right? If you want to ask for a raise, then you certainly will take into account when the right time to talk with your boss, right? If you are broke and want to borrow money on your closest friends though, you'll notice right time to talk to her, right?

To be effective, there is a good time to do everything.

You actually understand. But why when dealing with women, you always play the beat, spontaneous, and not counting anything? You with the blind hope that just by capital sincerity and affection, you will get a heart.

Secret Men Who Attract Structure

Women's definitely attracted to men who attract. One very simple sentences, but often make a man trapped, especially on the word 'interesting'.

Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.

Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.

Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!

If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.
Women's definitely attracted to men who attract. One very simple sentences, but often make a man trapped, especially on the word 'interesting'.

Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.

Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.

Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!

If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.

This is one example of a woman's attitude toward men who tried to give a gift lossy 'ngarep' to seduce a woman just as Valentine's Day yesterday. She is a friend of the alumni who told me that he was very troubled by these treatments and upload the following pictures on his Facebook.

The first picture is the four kinds of gifts Valentine (Valentine greeting cards, album, diary, movie soundtrack CD Valentine's Day, a funny cat dolls) given the lossy elements to the woman he adored. Then the second and third picture is the end result of the tragedy: a stuffed cat was stabbed with a kitchen knife, broken song CD, CD cover torn, spiral iron from the album diary drawn off until the pages were scattered.

I hope the pictures above is enough to convince you to stop being a lossy way. If you've already distanced themselves from the bad strategy, that's good ...
... but it may mean that you go into the next category, ie, some men who tried to interpret the 'interesting' with the other lines: presenting a thousand and one kind act to touch and arouse the emotions of women.
The main concept behind the above strategy is that psychologically people (and especially women!) Adapted to process, evaluate, and make decisions based on the emotional side. So if all men vying to act logically, a piece of another man who acted opposite automated definitely feels interesting, right?
Time for introspection first. Please look in the mirror in the third minute following questions according to your experience to date:

    * Have you ever encountered a situation like in the example above?

    * Do you have a thousand and one magical mechanics should be able to make a woman interested but it's still somewhat rare?

    * Do you spend hundreds of hours searching for a variety of powerful techniques to become an all-round man attractive and easy to attract women everywhere?

I'm sure you can reflect on the questions above. You can also pretty easily recognize your friends are doing that. Whenever you remember such a person, immediately convey this article addresses on their Facebook or Twitter account. Do not let them drag on there!
In the case of my friend above, it took almost a year for my friend to finally truly understand and stop repeating the mistakes. I do not want you to spend energy and time for it, that's why is important for you to focus on what you will read below.
The man who pulled a man who is not present or show something interesting. Talking about an interesting man means to speak about the man who has the qualities that attract, without consciously trying to show them.
He has the aura of attractiveness has become a property that really feels and real, rather than just a series of actions that must be done.
You'll occasionally see in a shopping mall a guy who only use the flops sandals, shorts and T-shirts plain but somehow you could sense he was not a person of low economic level. In appearance, he was classified as 'village', shabby and as stupid as a luxury mall around with this costume.
But, strangely feel that you feel from him is completely different from the action of his appearance.
That's what I mean by attractiveness owned and real without the need to painstakingly shown. Attractiveness was obliged terhadirkan synergistically in all aspects of your life, aka a holistic, rather than specifically in relation to romance.
So if you focus on 'what you should do', then you become someone who is always thinking about the next agenda for the next and the next and so on. Though women have super-sensitive radar to detect whether you are really qualified men attractive, or only men who know the ways to attract attention.
Remember this well: an interesting guy has never tried to attract attention!
Another case that I often find is people who are familiar with techniques and concepts surrounding spectacular saves to pick up women can be any doubt in their hearts that they are not eligible. They're like a kid with a fancy shell.
Second introspection that you must consider:

    * Do you focus to bear the feelings of the woman?

    * Do you have a number of techniques that can speak can not stop thinking about him and chase you?

    * Do you know the secret to make it crack willing to leave his girlfriend and her parents against orders by running to your arms?

Answer yes means you only knew the many ways to make it look attractive, aka you have to keep working hard so that women can see these things.
In seconds you stop doing it, forget, or run out of original ideas, you no longer look attractive. Worse, the women will realize that you are not personally like that they would think.
If you are trying to attract attention by demonstrating the sophistication, power, expertise, and certain advantages, you're doing it totally wrong, brothers!
I quote from the Social Psychology Spark Notes, "Women tend to value partners' social status, wealth, and Ambition Because these are characteristics of attractive successful men." Notice that she never thinks much about what you can do, but what you have in yourself.
So even if you could just see the results when the experts do this neat trick that, the women will just stick to a moment in your life. Try to be honest, how often it happens to you?
The greater the attention you give to yourself, increasing your quality that can be displayed and eventually owned.
Attention and Attraction relationship could be analogous to such a mirror. In order to reflect light well, it must clean the mirror surface (attention) and then exposed to strong light (attraction).
You are useless to direct him to a variety of strong light if the mirror was full of stains, dust, or even full with crack cracks.
In short, stop trying to draw attention to the woman because almost all men like that. Do something more mature, ie starting with mengulik and fix yourself because you really deserve to get attention long before you attract attention, much less attention to others.
You are obliged to give extraordinary attention to yourself to create a very interesting person. That's what I call the prelational skill because they have created and mastered before you can connect with other people.
Have you already do that? With a maximum?
Most people already realize that there is something missing in him, so they try to cope with how to find others who can complement the shortage. That case is often the reason why someone decides to for dating and marriage. Because they do not feel perfect, need completed.
Motivation is very lossy and wrong, pal.
You should not pair up because it was not perfect, but because you're perfect and perfection like to share it with other people. Believe me, women are not interested to make your life even more perfect, beautiful, and good!
Precisely those who seek man who could make them feel that way.
When you switch from paradigm I-need-exaggerated to me, then something magical happened. People who are used to having something with the excess will not be flashy and show off like a child. He will not be busy show of skill to lure people's attention.
Recall the example of a man with an appearance as if worn in a shopping mall earlier. About your opinion, what impression do you get when you see it: I am poor and need or I was rich and exaggerated?
Definitely the latter, right? Men are very confident with what he has. He is comfortable with himself. He used to concern itself with better all the time, so when he is wanted to appear cool relaxed, the aura of charisma ownership was still attached to him.
That is why you may feel uneasy or envious if you see people so stylish, especially if you do not have the same paradigm as him.
I hope you do not even derail the example above with the conclusion you do not need to pay attention to ethics-looking. Because the people who actually understand the procedures so good appearance. Since they usually have little educated to modify the image according to the situation and needs. In fact, not infrequently of their social engineering classes, business, and personalities from John Robert Power and the like.
So they used to develop a healthy ego center (attention) and perform appropriate techniques through self-development classes (attraction), so the attractiveness it is attached (attachment) a part that can not be separated from them, without relying on behavioral styles and techniques their appearance.
Time to look inward again for the last time:

    * Do you have to constantly do something for women interested in you?

    * Did you just can not stop to analyze what else you need to do next?

    * If you stop for a moment only, is up for forgetting or tired, if they lose and turn to someone else?

If the answer is yes, then it's because you've jumped on the stairs without passing Attraction Attention stairs.
Notice the habits of the women of the popular, beautiful and interesting. If you know them well, you will realize that early on, long before they know the ins and outs of cosmetics, they are taught in detail and extra attention to himself, as Loretta Young called it, "The split second she ceases to care is the only time a woman ceases to be attractive. "
Women thus used to think that he is an asset that need to be nurtured, preserved and promoted. They fully understand that they easily become the center of attention, center of worship, the central dream of many people if they build themselves well.
When they grow up, cosmetics mastery and social matrix that has been getting double the attention they give little since. The amount of concentration they give to yourself will always bear interest. To quote Kevin Costner in the movie Field of Dreams, "Build, and They Will Come!"
The same thing needs to happen to you, mate! If you want to be interesting, give the greatest emphasis and attention on your own organism. As I wrote before, the best way to get a woman is by not trying to get it.
Before trying to get him, make sure you've got yourself!
Forget the ambition to attract your ideal woman. Wake advance the lost focus of your ego. Give foods rich paradigm and nutritious. Then the latter developed a working system that could accommodate everything, because the mindset just like the gasoline that is not useful if you do not have a frame machine that works.
This is the importance of understanding the processes that occur between Attention and Attraction. You've stepped into Glossy since the first and second steps, but the real fruit glosifikasi located on the third rung, Manifestation Level. Here you are no longer thinking, designing, and trying to be interesting, but attractiveness is already manifest almost-automatic.
I refer to Attachment also because at this point that all sorts of success (ranging from education, career, women, romance, etc.) attached to the man himself. Some people have called men who are naturally magnetic, or natural.
In reality, there is no such thing as natural. Everything has a structure and process. The difference is the men who had never seen natural aware (conscious) about the process that he has lived and structure she was doing.
Glossy Men picture that is often referred to on this site is a man who has such attractive qualities. Men Glossy does not limit himself to just draw in the eyes of a woman or a woman coveted. It was a decent trinket loved child.
The woman was never a goal and hope of all the action of the Men Glossy, but beauty is manifested as an automatic right that they get while they're busy doing other things.
Women and romance is just a flower and fruit are the rights of man Glossy!
Consider again the picture above scheme. There is no direct link between the Attraction line toward Attachment. That means you can not go to the third rung. Then how do you achieve it?
You need to practice much in the two previous steps, square off and jump to arrive at the summit. Of course I will not describe here because the only thing you need is to concentrate on the first rung step: that of developing self-care as the most important person in this world.

As long as you continue to build your quality, then the woman, love, and other things will be added to you.
I could hear the screams of your deepest heart. The reason you sometimes feel confused, tired, or weight is because you bring so much knowledge and equipment in your love adventures.
You are too old to act like a kid who mesmerized watching instant information and techniques that promise bombastic presence of your ideal woman.
When your child, you speak like a child, you feel like a kid, you think like a child. One indicator is childish if you still continue to focus on women, such as trying to attract the presence of women like children who need love and attention her mother.
If you want to become an adult, you are obliged to leave childish things and turned to real solid food.
And the food that you chew swallow hard today is to stop trying to be interesting.
More specifically, stop trying to be a man pull a woman!
All you need to do is have the attractiveness to develop focused attention on yourself. There will be no any tips and techniques that can increase the attraction / attractiveness if you do not have to reconstruct yourself to have the right and deserve to be center of attention.
As written by Thomas Szasz, a psychiatrist radical, which is very famous in his book, "People Often Say That this or That person has not yet found Himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. "
Repeating what I gave at the beginning, she would be interested in men who are attractive. After reading all this, the question you need to carefully consider now is whether you have a really interesting as depicted by the structure on top secret, or only pretended to pull?

Back To You,

Your Appearance Is Your Personality

"Clothes make the man. I believe that. You say to me You Want to go shopping, You Want to buy clothes, but you do not know what kind. That You leave hanging in the air, like I'm supposed to fill in the blank. That to me is like "Who You Are Asking me ... and I do not know who you are."

The quotation above is the babbling of a limousine driver who chatted with Tom Hanks in a movie classic 90s comedy, Joe Versus The Volcano. Too bad the movie itself was never considered popular, let alone into the ranks of box office, because just one simple line of the store two secret glosifikasi for those who want to improve your self-perception of people will.

SECRET ONE: Clothes MAKE THE MAN. Whether it's in the areas of career, social life, or even romance, you will always be judged on your appearance. We were raised to not judge a book by its cover, but honestly it is not very practical advice since only be done by people who have had a chance to get to know you personally.

It takes only a half to thirty seconds for them to drop the rating verdict on yourself. Once the first impression was created, nearly impossible for them to change minds. Consider for a moment how many bids that fail to accomplish and the opportunities slip by because you are convicted on the basis of personal appearance is less attractive?

One of the main reasons many men appear generic, shallow and boring is because they do not believe that they are eligible to show otherwise. They do not believe that men also have the same right to play in the fashion world as women. They do not believe that men can also wear bright colors without looking cheesy. They do not believe that in addition to jackets, cardigans could also impressive image of the adult class when combined shirt tie. They do not believe this and that, they fear this and that. Yet today the world's concept of clothing has been shifted away from the time of Adam and Eve first.

The clothes you wear is no longer just a means of closing the body, but rather an extension of your personality.

Re-read the above sentence once again, this time with a loud voice.

If you feel cool, you must be willing to express themselves in a more visual form. You will not only armed with a t-shirt, shirt, and dark colored pants like that became the standard costume most men. Imagine this, if you have children later on, surely you will prepare the best set of clothes for him. You are so fond of her so that she would not look messy. Well, why not do it to yourself first from now?

Once again, a man whose indifference to her appearance is an insecure man. They did not feel himself worthy of the spotlight for all to see. They are afraid to appear charming and hide behind the excuse, "I'd rather be a few my self, and this is what it is myself."

Who told you to be someone else?

I only recommend you to sharpen your personality to make it look more vocal, bright, sharp, and burning. Not just a coincidence that the Top-Online we call 'quality man' with the term Glossy. While you will be required to become a shining light of the world, mate!

Could be a cool person you are relaxed, but do not let it become an obstacle character description of your success when interacting with others. Especially in a professional work environment where you are required to appear professional. Similarly, in social intercourse, he will definitely self-conscious quality to choose a quality appearance.

Notice the clothes you wear everyday, that's the real picture how you look at the quality yourself. Perfunctory appearances show personality who carelessly.

Your own responsibility, whether she pleased with the man's personality like?

Throw away the concept that should be yourself because you have are some of your best self, that is a way to show your best self-image. That's why you need to ask a female friend to accompany you shopping. Because if they miss the item pick, I'm sure it will still much better than your own choices that are likely to dwell on the model of so-so only.

Realize that your confidence is directly proportional to how far you are representing your body? Because what you wear not only influence the perception of others, but the first time away affect yourself. The less energy, time and money you give to your body, the more you find it hard to feel satisfied or proud of yourself. If you do not believe, telurusi experienced emotional difference when you wear new shoes and a worn old shoe.

The phenomenon above is the application of wise words, "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." So when you plant a lot of investing in yourself (with a set of best appearance), you are getting conditioned to love yourself more. This is also one part that I mentioned in the article Secret Structure Attract Men the other day, namely the importance of giving attention to himself.

When you dress clothes with interesting, you may by itself have increased self-confidence. Remember that fashion is not just limited to clothes alone, but overall we use start from head to toe. The beauty of the physical appearance of clothing you wear will polish your mental state, because Pls you look good, you feel good.

Please prove the formula by taking into account your surroundings right now. People who look good would emit a different aura. Their eyes were like shining with a sharp stare. Their footsteps seen a steady and purposeful. They sit, stand and move with a more charismatic posture. They are thus almost automatically appear more eager to succeed than other people who tend not to pay attention to their appearance.

That is why there is the term fashion statement, because what you wear (including how to wear it) will create a message and different situations. Women also will treat you differently according to the style of your appearance. Please experiment with this one simple trick After office hours, remove one kacing top (or two if you're not too hairy chest) your shirt. Feel how you feel compelled itself so relaxed, daring, and sexy, and women to be more friendly and more smiles than ever before.

SECRET TWO: KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Know yourself, outside and in, then you can easily choose what type of clothing as needed. Note that each set of fashion women designed to highlight the aesthetic sensuality, it is because they started early accustomed to Embracing and actualizing the essence of the feminine woman.

So the art recognize yourself begins with understanding the essence of a man: that masculinity or virility. You need to actualize the essence is the kind of shirts, pants, shoes and other accessories that attach to the body. The trick is to check your wardrobe and set aside the entire set of clothes that simply serves as a means of closing the body, does not look manly, or anything that does not make you smile proudly when he saw the reflection in the glass. If necessary, throw it stack it so you had to buy a new set.

I used to forbid you to read romance tips in the magazine because it tends to make you lossy. But for appearance, you are obliged to take the time to consider these tips from magazines and the Internet. One of the earliest references can be traced Fashion Men is a site run by alumni who happened to Hitman System. Learn the ins and outs as much as possible while continuing to dive into the side of your masculinity to shine.

The following visualization exercise can also help: close your eyes, imagine yourself as the perfect masculine figure, and contemplate what kind of look like suitable for use by men who like it. Then start now fill your closet with a set of clothes and attributes that match those of your imagination.

The introduction of internal self above will also need to be equipped with an external self-understanding, aka your physical shape. Spend more time in front of the mirror every day so you can identify with certain properties of your body, especially the shape and size. The more often do, the more you feel worthy of love, just saying "do not know, it is not love."

If you are not completely love your body, it's natural you feel weird and awkward when confronted with hundreds of clothes lined up, plus longer when the salesman came over. The best appearance is not about being popular style, renowned designer, let alone the most expensive price. The best appearance is set in such items that fit the body so as if he created specifically for you alone. And obviously to be able to find it, you need dedication of time is not small.

Honestly, have you ever spent more than ten minutes of being in a store? Rarely, right? Well, no wonder you rarely managed to find an optimal fashion for yourself!

Most men do not realize (boro-boro fans) his own property, and still must be reinforced by these bad habits when shopping: just lift clothes that usually depends on the hanger, front and rear views as she imagined when in use, then placed back into the rack . All done very quickly, as if each store to limit the duration of time traveling to see his entire collection and even charge a fee if you use the fitting room.

Then in addition, get used to also invite your friend or loved one woman to accompany you shopping. Note the comments and their choice of costumes that recommendation, even if you personally feel a little less agree with him. Often, your discomfort is not because the clothes do not fit, but just because your first time to open ourselves to the type of items recommended. Feelings like "Ah, it's not really my ..." or "I'm not confident to use stuff like this ..." will disappear by itself over time. So do not vote because he feels comfortable clothes alone, make sure it really makes you perform better.

This paper does not guide you how to be a quasi-fashionable man, because quoting Quentin Crisp, "Fashion is what you Adopt Pls you do not know who you are." This paper is not to convert you to become a metrosexual, let alone fashionista. I just invite you to widen glosifikasi and your mindset about the importance of maintaining good performance.

As a grown man, you must realize the responsibility of arranging the appearance myself, because the world treats you as you look at their self-image.


Light of the World,