Many people say, "just be yourself", if you want to approach a woman. They say that your appearance is not important in terms of romance. It is said that your heart is paramount, so even if you look unattractive woman can still see your heart's content. So to display what it is, do not bother this and that.
Ah, suppose that the world is sesimple ..
Unfortunately, my friend, that opinion is simply not true. In actual reality, appearance VERY influential. Of course there are other important factors that you can not ignore, but the thing is, if your appearance is not attractive in the eyes of women, from the beginning they will reject you even before you can say anything.
As word of Cygnus 'the Legend': "Appearance is not everything, but everything starts from the appearance .." And I agree with him one hundred percent.
To seduce women and find success in the life of romance, a man should be able to demonstrate the quality that can make it more shine than other men, such as: your personality, confidence, communication skills, social interaction and other matters.
One thing that is rarely recognized by men is, you can show those qualities only through your appearance. All you need to do is penetrate the barrier in your head that always said, "Ah, I do not need to look like that. What is important is to show what they are ..", or, "I am afraid to be pretentious trendy .." Most men limit themselves even before they try new things.
Or worse illusion that is often echoed the men in her heart, "I just want a woman who accepted me as I am .." With thoughts like that you have reason to remain so shabby, greatness, not matching and outdated. But come to think, reason like that it's really not fair, because you also would want a woman to look attractive, fashionable and nice views.
You do not want a woman who tampila it is, but you want to receive your women who look What presence! This is Madness!
If I see five years back and remember how I look, I can see myself sabotaging myself and all my efforts to get the romance of life I want. I would like to close with many women, but the way I dressed-il makes them feel, not interested, and hang out with my laziness. Actually the answer is already there in my head, but then I never do anything.
I'm probably not a genius like Jet, Kei and Lex, but over the years I was surrounded by those who have studied the social dynamics, psychology and philosophy for many years. It gives a positive effect. I learn to be people who think critically. However, for some reason I was so blind to not see that to obtain the desired life of romance, I MUST CHANGE MY FIRST APPEARANCE.
One thing that I found. Like many other men, I have the layers of illusion that prevented me to see the reality is actually happening in the world of romance. I realize that every person has the illusion of their respective versions. This is the result of a mindset instilled since childhood for many years by our social environment. Kei had been little to discuss about this on the blog. And it is almost impossible to avoid this effect, but you can identify this and do something if you WANT to change.
One of the mindset that one is mentally 'PLAY SAFE'. Try to remember when times elementary / junior high / high school. After you finish the teacher explained the lesson and open space question and answer, "Obviously all? Have something to ask?" What happened? You and almost all of your friends bowed and silent silence. And maybe you really want to ask the time, but you decide not to all kinds so as not be embarrassed by his friends. You 'PLAY SAFE'.
Without your awareness, since then formed a mental 'PLAY SAFE' in yourself and your personality, which eventually brought to you today. I am sure, would often similar incidents occur even when you've stepped on attending college or in a company meeting when you've become a professional.
This is normal, only if you have the mentality like this, you will limit yourself just because of fear of hurt and humiliated. You feel comfortable in your little box. You are afraid of a change. Though the changes may provide something good for you. And in terms of romance and looking, the same principle also applies.
I will share some simple things that can get you out of your comfort zone. The good news, you can do RIGHT NOW and this strategy can instantly change your look instantly and drastically.
* First of all, most men do not quite understand fashion. While women naturally very concerned with fashion and tend to remember in detail what was worn by a man. Therefore, ask the woman. They will be happy to give advice, because they really appreciate a man who cares about her appearance. Ask them to accompany you shopping and help choose appropriate clothing for you, and do not forget to treat them as a gesture of thanks.
* ALWAYS wear good clothes every time you exit the house. Do not be lazy. You never know when you'll meet your dream woman, so you should always be in the best circumstances. That way, the first impression when I saw your lady will be much better. Remember, to look attractive should be consistent, not only occasionally in certain events.
* You MUST Clothes are always clean and tidy. One of the most important as well, your clothes should not be greatness! Get used to the body fit shirt and pants that fit with your thighs. Unless you were black and living as a hip-hop singer, very few women who think that oversized shirts and pants that interesting.
* This is Indonesia, dude! If you want a little effort, then you can get any item in this country with relatively low prices, including clothing. So you do not need to pay big for fashion. You only need to look trendy and up-to-date. Compared with women who have to have so many kinds of clothes, shoes, bags and accessories for every activity, men just need a few sets of fashion alone. Looking good does not have to be expensive.
* For an informal and relaxed situation, you just need collar polo shirts, basic jeans dark blue, and brown leather shoes. For formal situations, you just need striped shirt (vertikal!) body fit, material pants or black jeans and black leather shoes. Make sure you have a plain belt brown with silver head plain as well. Likewise with a watch. Avoid the color of gold, the motives or the brand that makes your writing seem old and tacky. You can use the waist strap and watch it in all circumstances. Finally, you also must have one or two jackets / blazers as a complement. Total-total, you just have 3-4 pairs of clothes that you can combine according to the situation. Suppose for purposes of clubbing, you can wear T-shirts with a lined blazer body fit, combined with dark blue jeans and brown shoes. Simple is not it?
* If you are fat, too skinny, short or has a disproportionate body, certainly the ideal solution to this problem is to solve your weight problems with diet or exercise. But if not all, there are fashion solutions that you can do. You have to think and to experiment to find out what kind of fashion is right for you. Some fashion models will cover your shortcomings, others even make it increasingly obvious shortcomings. For example, wearing the same or similar colors for shirts and pants would cover the 'excess' fat you and will make you look taller.
* Models also your hair is something that is considered by women. Your hair can make a good first impression or destroyed. For this, you can believe my words one hundred percent. I had long hair shoulder-length since a few years ago, and it turns out the hair (too) long, is only attractive to some women only. Recently I cut my hair, and believe it or not, I feel more attractive. It also dikonfrmasi by several women close to me. In general, models that appeal to a woman's hair is very subjective, but they certainly avoid the gel and hair oil, because women are less like the wet look that will make your face look greasy a follow-up. Wax is easier to use, easy to shape and look more attractive. And I do not need to explain the difference in gel with wax on you, right?
* Talking about a haircut, you also have to match the shape of your head with a hairstyle you want. Different people different head shape. There are oval, square, round and each form fits with some hairstyles. If you use the wrong haircut, it will reduce the quality of your appearance. I am not a hair stylist, so I do not know what hairstyle is right for you, for that you can consult with a hair stylist at a salon nearby. But definitely, Spiky short hair model is one model of a universal and relatively suitable for all men.
* The study said 96% of women are attracted to a charming smile. This means if you have yellowish teeth, from the beginning you've lost the opportunity to know the women you want. Thank the current dental technology, as are many methods to improve the beauty of the tooth. This also applies to those that have advanced teeth, uneven, or broken. Go to the dentist, and fix it! If you can not love yourself, how you can love someone else?
* What about your skin? Acne is a problem for most people. If you have any problems with the skin, you should enhance your skin care. Skin problems are a little difficult, because when the product used is not suitable even be added to the problem. Consult a dermatologist. At least, you can regularly wash your face after every travel and before bed with a special soap man who can be bought anywhere. I know, most men are less concerned about this issue, but as I said above, if you can not love yourself, whether women will believe that you can love him?
It's all change at first it will feel strange and uncomfortable, but if you know the change will take you on a better life, why not just go for it? The tips above may seem you've read and heard through the magazines or television, but if you do all the above you will notice how influential these things in your romance life. Because when you look more attractive, you will feel more confident and be seen as a figure of fun, and it is crucial that required two things you have to captivate any woman.
In contrast to change the mindset and social skills that require internalization and exercise routine in a relatively long time, changing your appearance is the easiest and quickest thing you can do. So it makes sense if you first do this before we learn to practice the other strategies.
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Detective X
What is imagined in your head when reading the title above?
The title of the new comic? Nonsense? Or the new science of getting a woman's heart?
Whatever you think, Detective X has nothing to do with Sherlock Holmes, Detective Conan or Kindaichi, it also is not a science, but a new profession that is dangerous .. Professionals who often acted by modern man, lossy or Glossy. And That what makes it so dangerous ..
Later I will explain what the profession was Detective X. Before that, I'll tell you a little about one of the heroic events that often once I saw and heard.
My friend is approaching a hot woman who had already become a best-friend of his. He always consulted with me about how to get her heart while she is already comfortable as a close friend. Then I advised my friend to do the technique slow reset, so the atmosphere becomes like new again know slowly. Then my friend nodded in agreement.
2 days later he came back and asked, "Acts, I do want nge-reset my gebetan ya, I have to start how yah? What I have to SMS? Then, if I see him must diemin how long?" I began to feel strange here .. But because he is my good friend, then I answer them one by one. My friend nodded again.
That night he sent an SMS to me that contains the SMS to be sent to the female hero, and he wanted to dissect one by one word in a text message to be an interesting message. I still wait here, and I understand well after it would appear that these questions can be answered only by God alone. Yes, and I finally returned to spoil.
So did the next days. My friend kept calling me, especially before he was to call or SMS on gebetannya. Until I started to feel uncomfortable, not because he asked a lot, but because he does not do any thing that I recommend.
I could go on vacation out of town for a week. And when I come home, my friend came to me again and straight talk about the next war strategy, ranging from discussing the journal SMS he had sent its response, all response to the woman when talking on the phone, reference books that have been 'helping' my friends in menggebet, and 'experts' who have 'inspired' brains. Plus research has been his theory that if to get her heart.
Dizziness heard Sun Tzu's chattering, I simply ask: "Progress how bro? Good? Already meeting up again?"
My friend replied: "Not to dare me, Kis .. I do not know .."
And 6 months until now, according to information I can, the woman idol of my friends,has changed its compensation boyfriend ,doing interesting life with her friends who can be seen from the photos up for it, while my friends were still struggling seeking information and theories to resolve this colossal case without any clues would be progress. Constantly search, tirelessly, and without conscious his romance wall clock that no longer beats .. aka quit.
There are other stories more severe. I constantly got a call from my other friends because he was fancied by girls junior high school. Though my friend was a man who considered handsome, smart, and he Used to be a confident person.
Suddenly my mobile phone battery when it changed the function, which is out just to wait on this one my friend. Even when I was test too, he kept calling and forced me to inform the next steps to get the little girl's heart. He wanted to yell, but I finally ladeni quickly and annoyed.
Long story short, after my friend started doing what I was instructed, he managed to get the woman to be his girlfriend, the term of its lay, 'invented'. In my opinion, it's easy to get a girlfriend who was junior high, due to a little girl who was struggling to find identity and recognition, college kids get a girlfriend is an individual's pride to show it off to his friends. Yes, labile that brings blessings to my friend.
And starting from here, I should have to breathe sigh of relief.
But alas, my friend came back to ask questions and invite discussion about in-game relationship. This time a little different, because he has begun to dare to debating my advice because he felt it was 'get' the girl.
I admonished him with the words: "Dear brothers, approached the girl was not war! Not need a strategy all kinds, does not need a reference or any techniques for approaching girls .. just need a 3A: Action, Attractions and Adaptation! Girls are creatures of emotion, not the same like us. "
But my friend still insists to assume this is a war of logic, strategy and tactics.
I, with all my firmness, immediately cease all 'consultation sessions' and took off my friend to be independent, and provide final advice to not analyze everything too. Because I thought, if I continue to meladeninya will lead to other problems that will arise later in their relationship.
And now they've broken. My friend had to go back into the room filled with blueprints plans, strategies and miniature mountains of books and e-book to reclaim the girl. That without his knowing it, the room was one lossy cave.
They are definitely an example of Detective X..
The detective who was (and too) dedicated to his work, rather than resolve the case, but instead make the case more circling and no end without result. They do it with very patient, and incredibly, they really enjoy it! They have enough self-confidence, but they are more satisfied when in doing things Utik and process theory in a case rather than act to solve them.
Maybe you immediately think: "Aah, which may still exist people like that .. I'm still not possible."
Brothers, do not take for granted. All kinds of people can be infected by viruses Hope, and it is not impossible Hoping that you feel to take the profession as Detective X. One thing that may be new to you, and it is appropriate that you know, that is too strong Hoping to evolve!
Detective X syndrome is just one result of evolution Hoping that I have just patented.
I'm sure you can take the essence of this definition X Detectives from sad stories above. Therefore I do not need to describe again. But I will sort the potential and the characteristics of a Detective X, in the hope that there are detectives who read this and immediately changed the profession. And those who are not infected to be aware and stay away from all of its potential and its characteristics.
Hopefully it is not the only hope .. Only for Gods Glossy, I swear this is not the type of professions that benefit your future!
Here are the symptoms as well as the characteristics of people who have the potential to be Detective X:
* Men who love to analyze the theories detailed as details of her romance without understanding the fundamental concepts underlying the theory.
* Men who accumulate a lot of techniques to get women, references from experts in foreign and domestic, but little practiced.
* Men who are ngarep, and feel very comfortable when getting referrals from people who better understand, and addicted to continue to consult.
* Men who have high prestige, can not take a deep hatred of defeat, so he will think of a thousand ways to win battles.
* Men who love the romance of the world will look smart. When he was confronted with something that makes it look smart again, he tried to cover it up with bogus theories to still look smart.
* Men genius, good-looking, but often failed in getting women.
* Men who know what to do but to do so, he must ensure that its action is a 100% best option, of course he had to collect the opinions of many people first as a material consideration and analysis.
* Men who have become knowledge-junkie.
You again asked: ", it's basic properties for melogikalisasi man, and have pride in all the problems. That nature of a man!"
Try your attention again, I always embed the word 'very' or 'too' in the points that I describe, so the more clear that something is excessive will be bad in any aspect, including the excessive goodness ..
When there are points that hit on you, do not you rejected. Acknowledge in your heart, and immediately you reduce as soon as possible. Acknowledging is the first way to reduce the symptoms become a Detective X. When you find your friends, relatives or relatives you experience these things, immediately forward this article. Minimal your friends to know first what is waiting for the death penalty at the threshold of the road.
From my experience, the profession has been a lot of Detective X captured by all types of men. Men lossy, Playboy, Nerd or other male types.
Technique and theory is not everything for a man Glossy,and qualified men .Changes in mindset and practice that can take you there. But no matter how it we stressed, still exist that allow him lulled by the sweetness of 'Fruit Knowledge'.
Now I asked with an analogy ..
Which is more you want?
Being a struggling with astronomical sciences space, which continues to yearn to go to the moon, but hesitate because they feel more comfortable to stay on earth?
Or become an astronaut astronomy equipped to taste, but fly to the moon even though he knew it was far more at risk?
I appreciate whatever your choice, friend ..
So, what does 'X' that exists in the profession Detective X? Forgive me, because honestly I almost forgot to explain it. 'X' means you can enter your name or your relatives there, if you or your relatives are trapped in this profession.
Detective designation teasing X is not for material or stamp of shame, but as a reminder to immediately change the profession, being a man Glossy sparkling with a million qualities.
The title of the new comic? Nonsense? Or the new science of getting a woman's heart?
Whatever you think, Detective X has nothing to do with Sherlock Holmes, Detective Conan or Kindaichi, it also is not a science, but a new profession that is dangerous .. Professionals who often acted by modern man, lossy or Glossy. And That what makes it so dangerous ..
Later I will explain what the profession was Detective X. Before that, I'll tell you a little about one of the heroic events that often once I saw and heard.
My friend is approaching a hot woman who had already become a best-friend of his. He always consulted with me about how to get her heart while she is already comfortable as a close friend. Then I advised my friend to do the technique slow reset, so the atmosphere becomes like new again know slowly. Then my friend nodded in agreement.
2 days later he came back and asked, "Acts, I do want nge-reset my gebetan ya, I have to start how yah? What I have to SMS? Then, if I see him must diemin how long?" I began to feel strange here .. But because he is my good friend, then I answer them one by one. My friend nodded again.
That night he sent an SMS to me that contains the SMS to be sent to the female hero, and he wanted to dissect one by one word in a text message to be an interesting message. I still wait here, and I understand well after it would appear that these questions can be answered only by God alone. Yes, and I finally returned to spoil.
So did the next days. My friend kept calling me, especially before he was to call or SMS on gebetannya. Until I started to feel uncomfortable, not because he asked a lot, but because he does not do any thing that I recommend.
I could go on vacation out of town for a week. And when I come home, my friend came to me again and straight talk about the next war strategy, ranging from discussing the journal SMS he had sent its response, all response to the woman when talking on the phone, reference books that have been 'helping' my friends in menggebet, and 'experts' who have 'inspired' brains. Plus research has been his theory that if to get her heart.
Dizziness heard Sun Tzu's chattering, I simply ask: "Progress how bro? Good? Already meeting up again?"
My friend replied: "Not to dare me, Kis .. I do not know .."
And 6 months until now, according to information I can, the woman idol of my friends,has changed its compensation boyfriend ,doing interesting life with her friends who can be seen from the photos up for it, while my friends were still struggling seeking information and theories to resolve this colossal case without any clues would be progress. Constantly search, tirelessly, and without conscious his romance wall clock that no longer beats .. aka quit.
There are other stories more severe. I constantly got a call from my other friends because he was fancied by girls junior high school. Though my friend was a man who considered handsome, smart, and he Used to be a confident person.
Suddenly my mobile phone battery when it changed the function, which is out just to wait on this one my friend. Even when I was test too, he kept calling and forced me to inform the next steps to get the little girl's heart. He wanted to yell, but I finally ladeni quickly and annoyed.
Long story short, after my friend started doing what I was instructed, he managed to get the woman to be his girlfriend, the term of its lay, 'invented'. In my opinion, it's easy to get a girlfriend who was junior high, due to a little girl who was struggling to find identity and recognition, college kids get a girlfriend is an individual's pride to show it off to his friends. Yes, labile that brings blessings to my friend.
And starting from here, I should have to breathe sigh of relief.
But alas, my friend came back to ask questions and invite discussion about in-game relationship. This time a little different, because he has begun to dare to debating my advice because he felt it was 'get' the girl.
I admonished him with the words: "Dear brothers, approached the girl was not war! Not need a strategy all kinds, does not need a reference or any techniques for approaching girls .. just need a 3A: Action, Attractions and Adaptation! Girls are creatures of emotion, not the same like us. "
But my friend still insists to assume this is a war of logic, strategy and tactics.
I, with all my firmness, immediately cease all 'consultation sessions' and took off my friend to be independent, and provide final advice to not analyze everything too. Because I thought, if I continue to meladeninya will lead to other problems that will arise later in their relationship.
And now they've broken. My friend had to go back into the room filled with blueprints plans, strategies and miniature mountains of books and e-book to reclaim the girl. That without his knowing it, the room was one lossy cave.
They are definitely an example of Detective X..
The detective who was (and too) dedicated to his work, rather than resolve the case, but instead make the case more circling and no end without result. They do it with very patient, and incredibly, they really enjoy it! They have enough self-confidence, but they are more satisfied when in doing things Utik and process theory in a case rather than act to solve them.
Maybe you immediately think: "Aah, which may still exist people like that .. I'm still not possible."
Brothers, do not take for granted. All kinds of people can be infected by viruses Hope, and it is not impossible Hoping that you feel to take the profession as Detective X. One thing that may be new to you, and it is appropriate that you know, that is too strong Hoping to evolve!
Detective X syndrome is just one result of evolution Hoping that I have just patented.
I'm sure you can take the essence of this definition X Detectives from sad stories above. Therefore I do not need to describe again. But I will sort the potential and the characteristics of a Detective X, in the hope that there are detectives who read this and immediately changed the profession. And those who are not infected to be aware and stay away from all of its potential and its characteristics.
Hopefully it is not the only hope .. Only for Gods Glossy, I swear this is not the type of professions that benefit your future!
Here are the symptoms as well as the characteristics of people who have the potential to be Detective X:
* Men who love to analyze the theories detailed as details of her romance without understanding the fundamental concepts underlying the theory.
* Men who accumulate a lot of techniques to get women, references from experts in foreign and domestic, but little practiced.
* Men who are ngarep, and feel very comfortable when getting referrals from people who better understand, and addicted to continue to consult.
* Men who have high prestige, can not take a deep hatred of defeat, so he will think of a thousand ways to win battles.
* Men who love the romance of the world will look smart. When he was confronted with something that makes it look smart again, he tried to cover it up with bogus theories to still look smart.
* Men genius, good-looking, but often failed in getting women.
* Men who know what to do but to do so, he must ensure that its action is a 100% best option, of course he had to collect the opinions of many people first as a material consideration and analysis.
* Men who have become knowledge-junkie.
You again asked: ", it's basic properties for melogikalisasi man, and have pride in all the problems. That nature of a man!"
Try your attention again, I always embed the word 'very' or 'too' in the points that I describe, so the more clear that something is excessive will be bad in any aspect, including the excessive goodness ..
When there are points that hit on you, do not you rejected. Acknowledge in your heart, and immediately you reduce as soon as possible. Acknowledging is the first way to reduce the symptoms become a Detective X. When you find your friends, relatives or relatives you experience these things, immediately forward this article. Minimal your friends to know first what is waiting for the death penalty at the threshold of the road.
From my experience, the profession has been a lot of Detective X captured by all types of men. Men lossy, Playboy, Nerd or other male types.
Technique and theory is not everything for a man Glossy,and qualified men .Changes in mindset and practice that can take you there. But no matter how it we stressed, still exist that allow him lulled by the sweetness of 'Fruit Knowledge'.
Now I asked with an analogy ..
Which is more you want?
Being a struggling with astronomical sciences space, which continues to yearn to go to the moon, but hesitate because they feel more comfortable to stay on earth?
Or become an astronaut astronomy equipped to taste, but fly to the moon even though he knew it was far more at risk?
I appreciate whatever your choice, friend ..
So, what does 'X' that exists in the profession Detective X? Forgive me, because honestly I almost forgot to explain it. 'X' means you can enter your name or your relatives there, if you or your relatives are trapped in this profession.
Detective designation teasing X is not for material or stamp of shame, but as a reminder to immediately change the profession, being a man Glossy sparkling with a million qualities.
Men And Romancc
Buddy, do you feel like a romantic guy? Or want to learn to be romantic?
Along with the rise of romantic movies and mellow songs are sung by nan ngarep musicians homeland, the more men who are inspired to learn to be a Romantic Man.
Even this trend expanding indiscriminately, narrow understanding of the men about to start a relationship with a woman. Give the illusion of them, that by being romantic it will create a shortcut to a success in life romance.
Special thanks to the Medias! Thanks to the media, which always mensimbolisasikan romance with roses, poetry and song, diamond rings, and beautiful words alone, the men became increasingly distant from the romance of a healthy life and quality.
Some men spend a lot of money to buy flowers and rings to women that they love ..
Some men rack their brains just to assemble a beautiful poem to women that they love ..
Some men waste their precious time waiting for years to prove the sincerity of the woman they love ..
And of course, some men were killed in a physically or mentally, when he learned all of that was a total failure ..
Coupled with other typical cases. Culture romanticism has been eating so many male victims.
So what's the error that makes the romance that made the modern man is a total failure? Even tend to end with shouts of, "bullshit you once!" From a woman. Whereas male characters in the movie, these tips magazine, and the lyrics of the song managed to get the women they want. Points missed what you thought?
You see, most men do not understand well and not give a damn about the true meaning of 'romantic' itself. And already the law if we do not understand the true meaning of something, we also do not know the mechanism and how to do it right.
And even if you master something without understanding the true (self-taught), the knowledge you also will still be easy to collapse, getting lost, even stuck! Because you are not based on solid foundations. You do not know what and why you are wrong ..
As a literature student, I studied romance academically. And I really want to straighten your views about the meaning of 'romance', as well as providing a solution in accordance with what I have learned.
I promise not to lecture you with the history and philosophy of romanticism, but I will give a simple general definition of romanticism is only fitting that you know.
Romance in itself is a way or someone tips to express feelings of interest and admiration (love) on the opposite sex is interested. The Europeans are the pioneers of medieval romance .. in antiquity, they show an interest with flowers, poems, sweet words, and even sacrifice their lives.
Until finally, how this has become a trend and culture in the world to express love sleuruh .. until now!
But modernization has changed the face of drastically romance, my friend. When the actions were so easy to get romantic with 'price' is no longer cheap and artsy, the ancient romanticism demanded to adapt to modern culture.
It creates a romantic divided into two opposing camps, namely: (1) modern romantic action that has been successfully adapted to the times, and still bears the name of 'Romantic'. And (2) the action of ancient romance, which still relies on the ways that tend to succeed in ancient times, and finally ends with a 'rag' or 'quasi-Romantic'.
Think about it carefully. Today, automatic ROMANTIC stamp attached to the disclosure of a sense of action like that are considered genuine, creative, and managed to 'charming' hearts target. Melt like hot chocolate and felt so lull. Instead, Cap rag will stick on a number of actions that fail to 'charming' hearts, is not considered sincere and sheer seduction. The action was seen Trying too hard "to get attention from its target.
Weird is not it? One thing is distinguished from the genuine and least.
In other words, as long as you and thousands of other men think that you will successfully get a woman if you do a romantic action with SINCERELY! Though obviously not have a sincerity meter course. Who the hell knows if you are sincere or not?
Psycho-cultural differentiation is very interesting and confusing at the same time. So people who do tend to get lost. This is a division of a very thin, invisible, but the results are very much different.
You liked a woman, you are dealing with it, and you feel like showing your liking to him. Do not know what to do to attract him, then you can only use methods that work in film or creative ideas of your best friend (who is actually also a single all).
You think that's how to do. No woman may not be touched. So you prove your sincere love through the gift stuffed Teddy Bear is cute in his neck dikalungi a ring that you gave at 12 am right on his birthday.
The woman just stared at you with surprised faces. Then smiled and menucapkan thank you. He received your gift, and immediately you say, "I love you .. Can not I be your boy? "
The woman then thinks hard, putting all his strength and feeling unpleasant to say, "Oh thanks bangeet! I do not have thought .. But sorry, yes, I can not .. I was more comfortable to be friends wrote, you were too good for me .. "
I can translate the above sentence to Indonesian to be, "Najong .. Animashaun! Rags very siih! But it's also nice dolls the same ring .. but how well? Gue ga interested at lu .. "
Or you are recording a collection of songs that symbolize your feelings on the woman in a CD, giving it the feeling of hope-hope-anxiety. Your genuine sincerity. In the CD cover you even knitting poetry:
He was the person who has made me fall-wake.
He was the one who makes my life sweet.
He was the idol of my heart, my dream for this.
He is the end mywaiting.
He is .. You ..
The above poem is a poem most sincere ever, but instead get a stamp rag and she became heavy Ilfeel.
And you're sincere! Why would you even fail?
If you often fail in the romantic action, I would not blame you. But I also will not let you getting trapped. This is just due to misunderstandings about the romance that always force you to continue to rely on old methods that have been worn.
You can still bounce back!
Well, how to be a real romantic guy that will not be branded as Sok Rags Men Romantic?
Friend, many men mistakenly thinking that a romantic name that is a matter of nice words to seduce a full compliment and give special gift. And that's not at all!
Romantic Men really rely on TIMING and ATTITUDE!
TIMING mean you have to know the right time to launch a romantic action. You can not beat playing for granted. When you do so at the wrong moment, then surely you will meet with failure.
When you were little and wanted to have bought the toy, then you wait for the right time to seduce your parents, right? If you want to ask for a raise, then you certainly will take into account when the right time to talk with your boss, right? If you are broke and want to borrow money on your closest friends though, you'll notice right time to talk to her, right?
To be effective, there is a good time to do everything.
You actually understand. But why when dealing with women, you always play the beat, spontaneous, and not counting anything? You with the blind hope that just by capital sincerity and affection, you will get a heart.
Along with the rise of romantic movies and mellow songs are sung by nan ngarep musicians homeland, the more men who are inspired to learn to be a Romantic Man.
Even this trend expanding indiscriminately, narrow understanding of the men about to start a relationship with a woman. Give the illusion of them, that by being romantic it will create a shortcut to a success in life romance.
Special thanks to the Medias! Thanks to the media, which always mensimbolisasikan romance with roses, poetry and song, diamond rings, and beautiful words alone, the men became increasingly distant from the romance of a healthy life and quality.
Some men spend a lot of money to buy flowers and rings to women that they love ..
Some men rack their brains just to assemble a beautiful poem to women that they love ..
Some men waste their precious time waiting for years to prove the sincerity of the woman they love ..
And of course, some men were killed in a physically or mentally, when he learned all of that was a total failure ..
Coupled with other typical cases. Culture romanticism has been eating so many male victims.
So what's the error that makes the romance that made the modern man is a total failure? Even tend to end with shouts of, "bullshit you once!" From a woman. Whereas male characters in the movie, these tips magazine, and the lyrics of the song managed to get the women they want. Points missed what you thought?
You see, most men do not understand well and not give a damn about the true meaning of 'romantic' itself. And already the law if we do not understand the true meaning of something, we also do not know the mechanism and how to do it right.
And even if you master something without understanding the true (self-taught), the knowledge you also will still be easy to collapse, getting lost, even stuck! Because you are not based on solid foundations. You do not know what and why you are wrong ..
As a literature student, I studied romance academically. And I really want to straighten your views about the meaning of 'romance', as well as providing a solution in accordance with what I have learned.
I promise not to lecture you with the history and philosophy of romanticism, but I will give a simple general definition of romanticism is only fitting that you know.
Romance in itself is a way or someone tips to express feelings of interest and admiration (love) on the opposite sex is interested. The Europeans are the pioneers of medieval romance .. in antiquity, they show an interest with flowers, poems, sweet words, and even sacrifice their lives.
Until finally, how this has become a trend and culture in the world to express love sleuruh .. until now!
But modernization has changed the face of drastically romance, my friend. When the actions were so easy to get romantic with 'price' is no longer cheap and artsy, the ancient romanticism demanded to adapt to modern culture.
It creates a romantic divided into two opposing camps, namely: (1) modern romantic action that has been successfully adapted to the times, and still bears the name of 'Romantic'. And (2) the action of ancient romance, which still relies on the ways that tend to succeed in ancient times, and finally ends with a 'rag' or 'quasi-Romantic'.
Think about it carefully. Today, automatic ROMANTIC stamp attached to the disclosure of a sense of action like that are considered genuine, creative, and managed to 'charming' hearts target. Melt like hot chocolate and felt so lull. Instead, Cap rag will stick on a number of actions that fail to 'charming' hearts, is not considered sincere and sheer seduction. The action was seen Trying too hard "to get attention from its target.
Weird is not it? One thing is distinguished from the genuine and least.
In other words, as long as you and thousands of other men think that you will successfully get a woman if you do a romantic action with SINCERELY! Though obviously not have a sincerity meter course. Who the hell knows if you are sincere or not?
Psycho-cultural differentiation is very interesting and confusing at the same time. So people who do tend to get lost. This is a division of a very thin, invisible, but the results are very much different.
You liked a woman, you are dealing with it, and you feel like showing your liking to him. Do not know what to do to attract him, then you can only use methods that work in film or creative ideas of your best friend (who is actually also a single all).
You think that's how to do. No woman may not be touched. So you prove your sincere love through the gift stuffed Teddy Bear is cute in his neck dikalungi a ring that you gave at 12 am right on his birthday.
The woman just stared at you with surprised faces. Then smiled and menucapkan thank you. He received your gift, and immediately you say, "I love you .. Can not I be your boy? "
The woman then thinks hard, putting all his strength and feeling unpleasant to say, "Oh thanks bangeet! I do not have thought .. But sorry, yes, I can not .. I was more comfortable to be friends wrote, you were too good for me .. "
I can translate the above sentence to Indonesian to be, "Najong .. Animashaun! Rags very siih! But it's also nice dolls the same ring .. but how well? Gue ga interested at lu .. "
Or you are recording a collection of songs that symbolize your feelings on the woman in a CD, giving it the feeling of hope-hope-anxiety. Your genuine sincerity. In the CD cover you even knitting poetry:
He was the person who has made me fall-wake.
He was the one who makes my life sweet.
He was the idol of my heart, my dream for this.
He is the end mywaiting.
He is .. You ..
The above poem is a poem most sincere ever, but instead get a stamp rag and she became heavy Ilfeel.
And you're sincere! Why would you even fail?
If you often fail in the romantic action, I would not blame you. But I also will not let you getting trapped. This is just due to misunderstandings about the romance that always force you to continue to rely on old methods that have been worn.
You can still bounce back!
Well, how to be a real romantic guy that will not be branded as Sok Rags Men Romantic?
Friend, many men mistakenly thinking that a romantic name that is a matter of nice words to seduce a full compliment and give special gift. And that's not at all!
Romantic Men really rely on TIMING and ATTITUDE!
TIMING mean you have to know the right time to launch a romantic action. You can not beat playing for granted. When you do so at the wrong moment, then surely you will meet with failure.
When you were little and wanted to have bought the toy, then you wait for the right time to seduce your parents, right? If you want to ask for a raise, then you certainly will take into account when the right time to talk with your boss, right? If you are broke and want to borrow money on your closest friends though, you'll notice right time to talk to her, right?
To be effective, there is a good time to do everything.
You actually understand. But why when dealing with women, you always play the beat, spontaneous, and not counting anything? You with the blind hope that just by capital sincerity and affection, you will get a heart.
Secret Men Who Attract Structure
Women's definitely attracted to men who attract. One very simple sentences, but often make a man trapped, especially on the word 'interesting'.
Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.
Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.
Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!
If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.
Women's definitely attracted to men who attract. One very simple sentences, but often make a man trapped, especially on the word 'interesting'.
Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.
Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.
Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!
If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.
This is one example of a woman's attitude toward men who tried to give a gift lossy 'ngarep' to seduce a woman just as Valentine's Day yesterday. She is a friend of the alumni who told me that he was very troubled by these treatments and upload the following pictures on his Facebook.
The first picture is the four kinds of gifts Valentine (Valentine greeting cards, album, diary, movie soundtrack CD Valentine's Day, a funny cat dolls) given the lossy elements to the woman he adored. Then the second and third picture is the end result of the tragedy: a stuffed cat was stabbed with a kitchen knife, broken song CD, CD cover torn, spiral iron from the album diary drawn off until the pages were scattered.
I hope the pictures above is enough to convince you to stop being a lossy way. If you've already distanced themselves from the bad strategy, that's good ...
... but it may mean that you go into the next category, ie, some men who tried to interpret the 'interesting' with the other lines: presenting a thousand and one kind act to touch and arouse the emotions of women.
The main concept behind the above strategy is that psychologically people (and especially women!) Adapted to process, evaluate, and make decisions based on the emotional side. So if all men vying to act logically, a piece of another man who acted opposite automated definitely feels interesting, right?
Time for introspection first. Please look in the mirror in the third minute following questions according to your experience to date:
* Have you ever encountered a situation like in the example above?
* Do you have a thousand and one magical mechanics should be able to make a woman interested but it's still somewhat rare?
* Do you spend hundreds of hours searching for a variety of powerful techniques to become an all-round man attractive and easy to attract women everywhere?
I'm sure you can reflect on the questions above. You can also pretty easily recognize your friends are doing that. Whenever you remember such a person, immediately convey this article addresses on their Facebook or Twitter account. Do not let them drag on there!
In the case of my friend above, it took almost a year for my friend to finally truly understand and stop repeating the mistakes. I do not want you to spend energy and time for it, that's why is important for you to focus on what you will read below.
The man who pulled a man who is not present or show something interesting. Talking about an interesting man means to speak about the man who has the qualities that attract, without consciously trying to show them.
He has the aura of attractiveness has become a property that really feels and real, rather than just a series of actions that must be done.
You'll occasionally see in a shopping mall a guy who only use the flops sandals, shorts and T-shirts plain but somehow you could sense he was not a person of low economic level. In appearance, he was classified as 'village', shabby and as stupid as a luxury mall around with this costume.
But, strangely feel that you feel from him is completely different from the action of his appearance.
That's what I mean by attractiveness owned and real without the need to painstakingly shown. Attractiveness was obliged terhadirkan synergistically in all aspects of your life, aka a holistic, rather than specifically in relation to romance.
So if you focus on 'what you should do', then you become someone who is always thinking about the next agenda for the next and the next and so on. Though women have super-sensitive radar to detect whether you are really qualified men attractive, or only men who know the ways to attract attention.
Remember this well: an interesting guy has never tried to attract attention!
Another case that I often find is people who are familiar with techniques and concepts surrounding spectacular saves to pick up women can be any doubt in their hearts that they are not eligible. They're like a kid with a fancy shell.
Second introspection that you must consider:
* Do you focus to bear the feelings of the woman?
* Do you have a number of techniques that can speak can not stop thinking about him and chase you?
* Do you know the secret to make it crack willing to leave his girlfriend and her parents against orders by running to your arms?
Answer yes means you only knew the many ways to make it look attractive, aka you have to keep working hard so that women can see these things.
In seconds you stop doing it, forget, or run out of original ideas, you no longer look attractive. Worse, the women will realize that you are not personally like that they would think.
If you are trying to attract attention by demonstrating the sophistication, power, expertise, and certain advantages, you're doing it totally wrong, brothers!
I quote from the Social Psychology Spark Notes, "Women tend to value partners' social status, wealth, and Ambition Because these are characteristics of attractive successful men." Notice that she never thinks much about what you can do, but what you have in yourself.
So even if you could just see the results when the experts do this neat trick that, the women will just stick to a moment in your life. Try to be honest, how often it happens to you?
The greater the attention you give to yourself, increasing your quality that can be displayed and eventually owned.
Attention and Attraction relationship could be analogous to such a mirror. In order to reflect light well, it must clean the mirror surface (attention) and then exposed to strong light (attraction).
You are useless to direct him to a variety of strong light if the mirror was full of stains, dust, or even full with crack cracks.
In short, stop trying to draw attention to the woman because almost all men like that. Do something more mature, ie starting with mengulik and fix yourself because you really deserve to get attention long before you attract attention, much less attention to others.
You are obliged to give extraordinary attention to yourself to create a very interesting person. That's what I call the prelational skill because they have created and mastered before you can connect with other people.
Have you already do that? With a maximum?
Most people already realize that there is something missing in him, so they try to cope with how to find others who can complement the shortage. That case is often the reason why someone decides to for dating and marriage. Because they do not feel perfect, need completed.
Motivation is very lossy and wrong, pal.
You should not pair up because it was not perfect, but because you're perfect and perfection like to share it with other people. Believe me, women are not interested to make your life even more perfect, beautiful, and good!
Precisely those who seek man who could make them feel that way.
When you switch from paradigm I-need-exaggerated to me, then something magical happened. People who are used to having something with the excess will not be flashy and show off like a child. He will not be busy show of skill to lure people's attention.
Recall the example of a man with an appearance as if worn in a shopping mall earlier. About your opinion, what impression do you get when you see it: I am poor and need or I was rich and exaggerated?
Definitely the latter, right? Men are very confident with what he has. He is comfortable with himself. He used to concern itself with better all the time, so when he is wanted to appear cool relaxed, the aura of charisma ownership was still attached to him.
That is why you may feel uneasy or envious if you see people so stylish, especially if you do not have the same paradigm as him.
I hope you do not even derail the example above with the conclusion you do not need to pay attention to ethics-looking. Because the people who actually understand the procedures so good appearance. Since they usually have little educated to modify the image according to the situation and needs. In fact, not infrequently of their social engineering classes, business, and personalities from John Robert Power and the like.
So they used to develop a healthy ego center (attention) and perform appropriate techniques through self-development classes (attraction), so the attractiveness it is attached (attachment) a part that can not be separated from them, without relying on behavioral styles and techniques their appearance.
Time to look inward again for the last time:
* Do you have to constantly do something for women interested in you?
* Did you just can not stop to analyze what else you need to do next?
* If you stop for a moment only, is up for forgetting or tired, if they lose and turn to someone else?
If the answer is yes, then it's because you've jumped on the stairs without passing Attraction Attention stairs.
Notice the habits of the women of the popular, beautiful and interesting. If you know them well, you will realize that early on, long before they know the ins and outs of cosmetics, they are taught in detail and extra attention to himself, as Loretta Young called it, "The split second she ceases to care is the only time a woman ceases to be attractive. "
Women thus used to think that he is an asset that need to be nurtured, preserved and promoted. They fully understand that they easily become the center of attention, center of worship, the central dream of many people if they build themselves well.
When they grow up, cosmetics mastery and social matrix that has been getting double the attention they give little since. The amount of concentration they give to yourself will always bear interest. To quote Kevin Costner in the movie Field of Dreams, "Build, and They Will Come!"
The same thing needs to happen to you, mate! If you want to be interesting, give the greatest emphasis and attention on your own organism. As I wrote before, the best way to get a woman is by not trying to get it.
Before trying to get him, make sure you've got yourself!
Forget the ambition to attract your ideal woman. Wake advance the lost focus of your ego. Give foods rich paradigm and nutritious. Then the latter developed a working system that could accommodate everything, because the mindset just like the gasoline that is not useful if you do not have a frame machine that works.
This is the importance of understanding the processes that occur between Attention and Attraction. You've stepped into Glossy since the first and second steps, but the real fruit glosifikasi located on the third rung, Manifestation Level. Here you are no longer thinking, designing, and trying to be interesting, but attractiveness is already manifest almost-automatic.
I refer to Attachment also because at this point that all sorts of success (ranging from education, career, women, romance, etc.) attached to the man himself. Some people have called men who are naturally magnetic, or natural.
In reality, there is no such thing as natural. Everything has a structure and process. The difference is the men who had never seen natural aware (conscious) about the process that he has lived and structure she was doing.
Glossy Men picture that is often referred to on this site is a man who has such attractive qualities. Men Glossy does not limit himself to just draw in the eyes of a woman or a woman coveted. It was a decent trinket loved child.
The woman was never a goal and hope of all the action of the Men Glossy, but beauty is manifested as an automatic right that they get while they're busy doing other things.
Women and romance is just a flower and fruit are the rights of man Glossy!
Consider again the picture above scheme. There is no direct link between the Attraction line toward Attachment. That means you can not go to the third rung. Then how do you achieve it?
You need to practice much in the two previous steps, square off and jump to arrive at the summit. Of course I will not describe here because the only thing you need is to concentrate on the first rung step: that of developing self-care as the most important person in this world.
As long as you continue to build your quality, then the woman, love, and other things will be added to you.
I could hear the screams of your deepest heart. The reason you sometimes feel confused, tired, or weight is because you bring so much knowledge and equipment in your love adventures.
You are too old to act like a kid who mesmerized watching instant information and techniques that promise bombastic presence of your ideal woman.
When your child, you speak like a child, you feel like a kid, you think like a child. One indicator is childish if you still continue to focus on women, such as trying to attract the presence of women like children who need love and attention her mother.
If you want to become an adult, you are obliged to leave childish things and turned to real solid food.
And the food that you chew swallow hard today is to stop trying to be interesting.
More specifically, stop trying to be a man pull a woman!
All you need to do is have the attractiveness to develop focused attention on yourself. There will be no any tips and techniques that can increase the attraction / attractiveness if you do not have to reconstruct yourself to have the right and deserve to be center of attention.
As written by Thomas Szasz, a psychiatrist radical, which is very famous in his book, "People Often Say That this or That person has not yet found Himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. "
Repeating what I gave at the beginning, she would be interested in men who are attractive. After reading all this, the question you need to carefully consider now is whether you have a really interesting as depicted by the structure on top secret, or only pretended to pull?
Back To You,
Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.
Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.
Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!
If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.
Women's definitely attracted to men who attract. One very simple sentences, but often make a man trapped, especially on the word 'interesting'.
Because according to Wikipedia, "An attraction is an interest, desire in something or someone," most men try to be interesting in a way to meet the wishes and needs of women.
Thus, was born the various cultures that special treatment of women, such as very caring, diligent praise, become shamans vent, a lot of sacrifice, all jaim, feigning romantic and a gentleman, pursuing for years, and so on. Still in the same category with it is trying to pull through the provision of facilities, luxury and unique gifts that can not be given by another man.
Honestly, it is logical and good idea, just that all the above is only successful if and only if the woman had been previously interested in you!
If he is not interested, it's useless you show interesting treatments above. In fact, all women gebetan you will become resentful and hate you.
This is one example of a woman's attitude toward men who tried to give a gift lossy 'ngarep' to seduce a woman just as Valentine's Day yesterday. She is a friend of the alumni who told me that he was very troubled by these treatments and upload the following pictures on his Facebook.
The first picture is the four kinds of gifts Valentine (Valentine greeting cards, album, diary, movie soundtrack CD Valentine's Day, a funny cat dolls) given the lossy elements to the woman he adored. Then the second and third picture is the end result of the tragedy: a stuffed cat was stabbed with a kitchen knife, broken song CD, CD cover torn, spiral iron from the album diary drawn off until the pages were scattered.
I hope the pictures above is enough to convince you to stop being a lossy way. If you've already distanced themselves from the bad strategy, that's good ...
... but it may mean that you go into the next category, ie, some men who tried to interpret the 'interesting' with the other lines: presenting a thousand and one kind act to touch and arouse the emotions of women.
The main concept behind the above strategy is that psychologically people (and especially women!) Adapted to process, evaluate, and make decisions based on the emotional side. So if all men vying to act logically, a piece of another man who acted opposite automated definitely feels interesting, right?
Time for introspection first. Please look in the mirror in the third minute following questions according to your experience to date:
* Have you ever encountered a situation like in the example above?
* Do you have a thousand and one magical mechanics should be able to make a woman interested but it's still somewhat rare?
* Do you spend hundreds of hours searching for a variety of powerful techniques to become an all-round man attractive and easy to attract women everywhere?
I'm sure you can reflect on the questions above. You can also pretty easily recognize your friends are doing that. Whenever you remember such a person, immediately convey this article addresses on their Facebook or Twitter account. Do not let them drag on there!
In the case of my friend above, it took almost a year for my friend to finally truly understand and stop repeating the mistakes. I do not want you to spend energy and time for it, that's why is important for you to focus on what you will read below.
The man who pulled a man who is not present or show something interesting. Talking about an interesting man means to speak about the man who has the qualities that attract, without consciously trying to show them.
He has the aura of attractiveness has become a property that really feels and real, rather than just a series of actions that must be done.
You'll occasionally see in a shopping mall a guy who only use the flops sandals, shorts and T-shirts plain but somehow you could sense he was not a person of low economic level. In appearance, he was classified as 'village', shabby and as stupid as a luxury mall around with this costume.
But, strangely feel that you feel from him is completely different from the action of his appearance.
That's what I mean by attractiveness owned and real without the need to painstakingly shown. Attractiveness was obliged terhadirkan synergistically in all aspects of your life, aka a holistic, rather than specifically in relation to romance.
So if you focus on 'what you should do', then you become someone who is always thinking about the next agenda for the next and the next and so on. Though women have super-sensitive radar to detect whether you are really qualified men attractive, or only men who know the ways to attract attention.
Remember this well: an interesting guy has never tried to attract attention!
Another case that I often find is people who are familiar with techniques and concepts surrounding spectacular saves to pick up women can be any doubt in their hearts that they are not eligible. They're like a kid with a fancy shell.
Second introspection that you must consider:
* Do you focus to bear the feelings of the woman?
* Do you have a number of techniques that can speak can not stop thinking about him and chase you?
* Do you know the secret to make it crack willing to leave his girlfriend and her parents against orders by running to your arms?
Answer yes means you only knew the many ways to make it look attractive, aka you have to keep working hard so that women can see these things.
In seconds you stop doing it, forget, or run out of original ideas, you no longer look attractive. Worse, the women will realize that you are not personally like that they would think.
If you are trying to attract attention by demonstrating the sophistication, power, expertise, and certain advantages, you're doing it totally wrong, brothers!
I quote from the Social Psychology Spark Notes, "Women tend to value partners' social status, wealth, and Ambition Because these are characteristics of attractive successful men." Notice that she never thinks much about what you can do, but what you have in yourself.
So even if you could just see the results when the experts do this neat trick that, the women will just stick to a moment in your life. Try to be honest, how often it happens to you?
The greater the attention you give to yourself, increasing your quality that can be displayed and eventually owned.
Attention and Attraction relationship could be analogous to such a mirror. In order to reflect light well, it must clean the mirror surface (attention) and then exposed to strong light (attraction).
You are useless to direct him to a variety of strong light if the mirror was full of stains, dust, or even full with crack cracks.
In short, stop trying to draw attention to the woman because almost all men like that. Do something more mature, ie starting with mengulik and fix yourself because you really deserve to get attention long before you attract attention, much less attention to others.
You are obliged to give extraordinary attention to yourself to create a very interesting person. That's what I call the prelational skill because they have created and mastered before you can connect with other people.
Have you already do that? With a maximum?
Most people already realize that there is something missing in him, so they try to cope with how to find others who can complement the shortage. That case is often the reason why someone decides to for dating and marriage. Because they do not feel perfect, need completed.
Motivation is very lossy and wrong, pal.
You should not pair up because it was not perfect, but because you're perfect and perfection like to share it with other people. Believe me, women are not interested to make your life even more perfect, beautiful, and good!
Precisely those who seek man who could make them feel that way.
When you switch from paradigm I-need-exaggerated to me, then something magical happened. People who are used to having something with the excess will not be flashy and show off like a child. He will not be busy show of skill to lure people's attention.
Recall the example of a man with an appearance as if worn in a shopping mall earlier. About your opinion, what impression do you get when you see it: I am poor and need or I was rich and exaggerated?
Definitely the latter, right? Men are very confident with what he has. He is comfortable with himself. He used to concern itself with better all the time, so when he is wanted to appear cool relaxed, the aura of charisma ownership was still attached to him.
That is why you may feel uneasy or envious if you see people so stylish, especially if you do not have the same paradigm as him.
I hope you do not even derail the example above with the conclusion you do not need to pay attention to ethics-looking. Because the people who actually understand the procedures so good appearance. Since they usually have little educated to modify the image according to the situation and needs. In fact, not infrequently of their social engineering classes, business, and personalities from John Robert Power and the like.
So they used to develop a healthy ego center (attention) and perform appropriate techniques through self-development classes (attraction), so the attractiveness it is attached (attachment) a part that can not be separated from them, without relying on behavioral styles and techniques their appearance.
Time to look inward again for the last time:
* Do you have to constantly do something for women interested in you?
* Did you just can not stop to analyze what else you need to do next?
* If you stop for a moment only, is up for forgetting or tired, if they lose and turn to someone else?
If the answer is yes, then it's because you've jumped on the stairs without passing Attraction Attention stairs.
Notice the habits of the women of the popular, beautiful and interesting. If you know them well, you will realize that early on, long before they know the ins and outs of cosmetics, they are taught in detail and extra attention to himself, as Loretta Young called it, "The split second she ceases to care is the only time a woman ceases to be attractive. "
Women thus used to think that he is an asset that need to be nurtured, preserved and promoted. They fully understand that they easily become the center of attention, center of worship, the central dream of many people if they build themselves well.
When they grow up, cosmetics mastery and social matrix that has been getting double the attention they give little since. The amount of concentration they give to yourself will always bear interest. To quote Kevin Costner in the movie Field of Dreams, "Build, and They Will Come!"
The same thing needs to happen to you, mate! If you want to be interesting, give the greatest emphasis and attention on your own organism. As I wrote before, the best way to get a woman is by not trying to get it.
Before trying to get him, make sure you've got yourself!
Forget the ambition to attract your ideal woman. Wake advance the lost focus of your ego. Give foods rich paradigm and nutritious. Then the latter developed a working system that could accommodate everything, because the mindset just like the gasoline that is not useful if you do not have a frame machine that works.
This is the importance of understanding the processes that occur between Attention and Attraction. You've stepped into Glossy since the first and second steps, but the real fruit glosifikasi located on the third rung, Manifestation Level. Here you are no longer thinking, designing, and trying to be interesting, but attractiveness is already manifest almost-automatic.
I refer to Attachment also because at this point that all sorts of success (ranging from education, career, women, romance, etc.) attached to the man himself. Some people have called men who are naturally magnetic, or natural.
In reality, there is no such thing as natural. Everything has a structure and process. The difference is the men who had never seen natural aware (conscious) about the process that he has lived and structure she was doing.
Glossy Men picture that is often referred to on this site is a man who has such attractive qualities. Men Glossy does not limit himself to just draw in the eyes of a woman or a woman coveted. It was a decent trinket loved child.
The woman was never a goal and hope of all the action of the Men Glossy, but beauty is manifested as an automatic right that they get while they're busy doing other things.
Women and romance is just a flower and fruit are the rights of man Glossy!
Consider again the picture above scheme. There is no direct link between the Attraction line toward Attachment. That means you can not go to the third rung. Then how do you achieve it?
You need to practice much in the two previous steps, square off and jump to arrive at the summit. Of course I will not describe here because the only thing you need is to concentrate on the first rung step: that of developing self-care as the most important person in this world.
As long as you continue to build your quality, then the woman, love, and other things will be added to you.
I could hear the screams of your deepest heart. The reason you sometimes feel confused, tired, or weight is because you bring so much knowledge and equipment in your love adventures.
You are too old to act like a kid who mesmerized watching instant information and techniques that promise bombastic presence of your ideal woman.
When your child, you speak like a child, you feel like a kid, you think like a child. One indicator is childish if you still continue to focus on women, such as trying to attract the presence of women like children who need love and attention her mother.
If you want to become an adult, you are obliged to leave childish things and turned to real solid food.
And the food that you chew swallow hard today is to stop trying to be interesting.
More specifically, stop trying to be a man pull a woman!
All you need to do is have the attractiveness to develop focused attention on yourself. There will be no any tips and techniques that can increase the attraction / attractiveness if you do not have to reconstruct yourself to have the right and deserve to be center of attention.
As written by Thomas Szasz, a psychiatrist radical, which is very famous in his book, "People Often Say That this or That person has not yet found Himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. "
Repeating what I gave at the beginning, she would be interested in men who are attractive. After reading all this, the question you need to carefully consider now is whether you have a really interesting as depicted by the structure on top secret, or only pretended to pull?
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