What's Wrong with Marrying for Love?

Falling in love is the expected and proper prelude to marriage. As presently interpreted, this means that you marry for love and that you work at it after marriage. A successful marriage is the final realization of a romantic attraction. A good marriage is one that contributes freely and fully to personality development; a poor marriage is one that hinders it. Getting married is primarily a romantic adventure with an emphasis upon individual rights and freedom from parental control, rather than a carefully reasoned choice involving a prudent weighing of other factors important for a lifelong union. Passionate attachment and anticipated happiness outweigh such considerations as companionship, cultural similarities and common social experience. We proudly announce that we no longer marry for convenience, to promote a career or to please our families but to establish a personally desirable relationship that is voluntary, rests on personal choice, and aims at individual happiness and personality development.

Romance is beautiful. Wonderful. But as the primary basis for selection of matrimonial mates? On which to build a lifelong union? Many things must be considered. This is the verdict of other centuries. Young people need the counsel of their elders. Parents do know something about the nature and needs of their own children. They can judge their mates through the eyes of their greater age and experience. And 'they do seek the happiness of their children. Does modern research throw any light on the validity of romance as a basis for mate selection? What are the findings of recent studies of marital problems? Romance according to some researchers is a process of fantasy formation, usually adolescent when one idealizes another person, ignoring the faults and magnifying the virtues of the loved one. (After marriage there is usually an emotional return to reality.) Other students of the problem see it as a striving for emotional security, so lacking in casual relations Df our everyday life.

Whatever the facts may be in each of these interpretations, it should be noted that all see romantic love as some brm of compensating emotion, personally satisfying, ide-ilizing someone else but unrelated to reality. Studies of marital failure and success show quite clearly hat the longer the period of acquaintance before marriage, he greater the chances of marital success.

Perhaps most essential is the importance of similarity of ocial background for marital success. This means that like hould marry like. "Marriage," writes a well-known family sociologist, "involves living with a person, not merely loving him." It is this prosaic fact that places romantic love in its proper proportions as a basis for marriage. Romance must be termed the prelude to the more sober and realistic consideration of a mate hut

Make a Girl Fall in Love with You

How to make a girl fall in love with you? Well for some, it's no big deal. So many among us are very charming naturally and it takes them no more than a couple of days to have the woman of their dreams swooning all over them. But for the average-joes like you and me, charm isn't something which comes naturally and is something you might want to work on. So how can you make that special girl-of-your-dreams fall in love with you?

Well once you get the mental block, the fear, the inability to talk, out, it becomes much simpler to make a girl fall in love with you. All you need to do is follow some of these ways to make a girl fall in love with you. Read on for more dating tips.

Suit Up!

It's fair to assume that women will enjoy a well-dressed, dapper looking man more than a slob. Now while going to the Armani store and picking up their nattiest suit isn't for all of us, it is still within our reach to dress well, look tidy and presentable. Wear clothes which you feel you can carry off well enough. Learn how to look good. After all which women doesn't want a good-looking man?

Confidence


This is a quality which can be hard to cultivate, if you haven't got it. Most women love strong, confident and assertive men. Hardly do you see a woman cozying up to a guy who isn't self-assured or is shy. A confident man is certainly a turn-on for women.

Smile

You might not believe how few men can smile and talk to a beautiful woman at the same time. But by smiling, you exude a confidence as well as giving a sign that you're actually enjoying the company of that woman. Besides, smiling makes you look handsome as well!

Conversation


Women love a man who knows what to talk and how to talk. So when I say that you should have an interesting conversation with a woman, it really ought not to be about the weather or something else which will not interest and moreover disenchant the woman you're speaking with. Find some common points among yourself which interest you both for you can talk about. Otherwise, always have a really impressive or a funny story up your sleeve. So if you don't have much in common, at least there is something really nice and well-rehearsed to talk to her about!


Flirt



Another little something which doesn't come to most men naturally. Flirting tips can be hard to give and moreover each person's approach and flirting style differs. But women do love a man who is naughty and charming at the same time. A man who appreciates their looks and is not scared to speak up about it. Women love an ego-massage, and flirting is one of those fairly effective tools which you could use to your advantage.

Talents

Most people who give relationship advice will tell you to show the girl your artistic or talented side. Can you sing/play a musical instrument/paint/write etc? This point is a sure winner as women love to be wooed and showered with attention and affection. And singing a song for a woman will definitely do that whole heart-strings-fluttering bit for you!

Keep Your Secrets

Women are quite accustomed to having that fine line between a friend and someone they'd like to date. Now most men still haven't wrapped their heads around where women draw this line, so it is always good to be a little secretive and mysterious. Keep some things about yourself for later, for the girl to discover over time. By being far too open, you might end up in the 'friend-zone'. Forever!

Where and How to Kiss Your Love

# Behind their ear.
# Tip of their nose.
# Back of their neck.
# Underside of their forearm.
# Curve of their waist.
# Palm of their hand.
# Inside their wrist.
# Under their chin.
# Their eyelids.
# Inside of their ankle.
# Their collar bone.
# Tips of their fingers.
# Their spine.
# Small of their back.
# Their tummy.
# Behind their knees.
And also those special places (I won't go to detail)

Scheduling Alone Time for Your Relationship

Scheduling alone time is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. To be the best person you can be, including the best partner, lover, and friend, you have to stay true to you and the only way to do that is to spend time with yourself and nobody else. Spending time alone gives you the opportunity to feed your soul, resituate your sense of self, and get in touch with your individuality. Without alone time, the opposite often comes true.

It is never too late to get back in touch with your true self. Take it on as a project and add your alone time to your Daily Romance planner. Plan a few hours alone each week and an occasional weekend to yourself. It may sound like a lot for those of you out there who aren’t used to it, but you will see the positive results right away. The more of a commitment you give to yourself, the healthier a person you will be, and in turn, the better you can fill the roles you have chosen in your family.

Daily Romance
Schedule a little alone time for yourself every single day. It may only be relaxing for a few minutes before the rest of the house wakes up or taking advantage of the occasional hour home alone, but make sure that it happens on a regular basis.

Keep yourself involved in a hobby you enjoy doing by yourself. Find a great artistic outlet for yourself. Things like dancing, painting and photography are some of the best ways to grow the seeds planted inside of you.
Spend a few minutes at the end of your days to journal. Lay your thoughts and feelings to rest before hitting the pillow and your overall health and wellness will benefit.
Motivate yourself. Read something inspiring when you wake up, or take a few minutes during the day to reset and give yourself a little pep talk.
Exercise. Go for a jog, walk, hike, or bike ride by yourself. You will get the time alone to reflect, decompress, and recharge, but you will also get the benefits of feeling good about Daily Romance exercise (or a couple of times a week) like the release of endorphins, better digestion, healthier heart, and nicer legs.


When You Have An Hour
Each week, when your hour of scheduled alone time comes up, resist the urge to flip on the TV and spend some real quality time with yourself.

Spend your time looking for a new book. Don’t feel the pressure of finding a book that will help you deal with any issues you have. Find something that you will fall in love with, an adventure, a love story, a biography. If you’ve already got a book you know you will love, spend your whole hour in its pages.
Listen to music. Choose retro girlie stuff and dance around the house like you are 13 again, emotional ballads and karaoke your heart out, or inspirational tunes to just sit and enjoy where they take you.
Write. Journal or start a writing project like a children’s book or autobiography, or try your hand at some poetry.
Meditate. Meditation is of the essence for your spiritual, emotional and physical self to be healthy. If you haven’t spent time in meditation before, try a guided meditation of some sort. You can even get CD’s that guide you through meditation for all sorts of purposes like your health, peace, relaxation, listening to your heart, and more.
Take a bath. Bring along a good book, a glass of wine, or your favorite music. Light some aromatic candles and lock the door.


When You Have A Few Hours
Every couple of weeks, make time to go do something fun all by your lonesome.

Do something really exhilarating like bungee jumping or sky diving and get the extra thrill of doing it all by yourself, all for yourself.
Work on a project you’ve been wanting to do like a gardening mission, a do-it-yourself design project, or making a scrapbook.
Take yourself on a day trip. Pack yourself a picnic and hop in the car. Drive somewhere beautiful and peaceful where you can spend your day. You could hike, bike, or ride a horse somewhere wonderful or just drive, stopping off when you see something interesting.
Spend the day at a museum, art or otherwise. They are great places to let your imagination wander and also reflect on your life.
Hang out at the beach, river or next to the pool, soaking in the sun and thinking or reading or listening to music.


When You Have The Whole Weekend
At least once a season, schedule yourself a whole weekend or more to get centered. The first time you do this, guaranteed, it will be life-changing. Save up a bit of money for yourself without feeling guilty. You won’t regret it.

Take yourself camping. Pack your favorite foods, a good book, plenty of firewood, and just hang out with yourself. Getting out in nature is also a great time spend digging into your spirituality and journaling as well. If a tent in the forest isn’t your cup of tea, get yourself a cabin or a room in a peaceful resort.
Take a train trip with one of those great travel passes where you can hop on and off as often as you like for a certain amount of time. The pass gives you the freedom to be totally spontaneous and traveling by train the least stressful way to travel.
Spend your weekend at a spa. Eat healthy foods, hydrate in mud baths, detox with body wraps, relax with massage, and relax all day in fluffy robes. Take therapeutic walks through gardens and get into a really good book while you are there. Come back feeling refreshed and renewed...

you're not alone

Have you ever felt the world is not fair? When the clock shows the hours of 6 pm and you are still in the office trying to show the world your penance is an extraordinary perkerja, and was an award given to you not as big as your expectations?

Have you ever drive your vehicle through city traffic you and that you feel when it is anger and hatred, either to whom.

Have you entered your room, curled up alone and condemned the world and yourself, for what you experience during this?

Have you stayed in your room, cramped and sore torment your heart? Tears streamed down without stopping, and even you do not know what's really happening?

Have you ever felt it was best to give the woman your idol and you get only half-hearted smile from him?

Have you ever looked down shortly after losing your love was rejected by a woman?

Have you ever wanted to shout angrily and annoyed when your idol woman ran hug her lover and leave you alone?

Have you ever spent a third of your life just to see her idol you go with another man?

Have you ever paused not to say when you tell a woman imprisoned idol rough and cruel lover? And then you want to scream at her to leave him.

Have you ever wonder when your love was rejected on the grounds you are too good for her?

Have you ever sit and ponder why you are always alone? Even when you're with your friends, you feel only emptiness and loneliness.

Do you ever feel fed up with all the suggestions and advice of your friends about the love that never worked?

Do you ever feel no one understands you?

Have you ever felt alone?

Let's leave the questions there first.